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Do Women Know the Difference Between Sexual and Wifey Attention?

Robert Mulokwa

Robert Mulokwa

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Do Women Know the Difference Between Sexual and Wifey Attention?

Are you a side chick? If not, why settle for side chick treatment?

In the whirlwind of modern dating, the initial spark is often electric. Flirtatious texts, steamy dates, and a heady rush of sexual attention can feel intoxicating. But what happens when the initial fireworks fade? Do women always recognize the difference between this exciting early stage and the qualities that signal true “wifey material”?

Wifey vs. Side Chick: Dissecting Attention Styles

Let’s break down the key differences between sexual attention and wifey attention:

  • Sexual Attention: This is often focused on physical attraction and immediate gratification. Compliments might center solely on looks, dates might prioritize intimacy, and the overall vibe is more about passion than partnership. If he only pings you in the middle of the night, you’re a side chick.
  • Wifey Attention: This goes beyond the physical. It involves respect, emotional support, shared values, and a genuine interest in building a future together. Compliments highlight not just looks, but personality and character. If he invests his time (during the day) and resources in you, he sees you as potential wifey.

“Watch What Men Want”, But Do Women See It?

The media bombards us with messages about “what men want.” However, the reality is often more nuanced. While initial attraction is important, most men seeking a long-term partner crave these qualities:

  • Emotional Intelligence: The ability to connect on an emotional level, communicate openly, and offer support is a major turn-on for many men.
  • Shared Values and Goals: Having a compatible vision for the future, whether it’s building a family or traveling the world, creates a strong foundation for a lasting relationship.
  • Respect and Partnership: Men appreciate women who see them as equals, value their opinions, and approach the relationship as a team.
  • Low Body Count: If men were given a choice, they’d choose a virgin over a porn star to be their wife and mother of their children. It’s shocking how many western women don’t value their purity and miss this biological fact.

Beyond the Butterflies: Recognizing True Wifey Material

So how can women differentiate between fleeting desire and genuine “wifey material”? Here are some signs to watch for:

  • Consistent Effort: Wifey attention isn’t a one-time thing. It’s a consistent pattern of showing care, interest, and respect.
  • Actions Speak Louder Than Words: Empty compliments are nice, but actions that demonstrate support, reliability, and a willingness to be there for the long haul are far more telling.
  • Focus on the Future: Does your partner talk about building a future together, or is the conversation limited to the present moment?
  • Low to No Bodies: There’s a biological urge in men to desire chaste women. Don’t bash men for our nature. It’s no different than women preferring physically capable men. Why wester society shames men for our preferences is mind boggling.

The Takeaway: Seeking a Partner, Not Just Attention

Dating can be a thrilling adventure, but it’s important to navigate it with clear goals in mind. Are you seeking a casual fling or a potential life partner? Understanding the difference between sexual attention and wifey attention empowers you to make informed choices and find a relationship that aligns with your desires.

Here are some resources to help you navigate the often-confusing world of modern dating:

Remember, a healthy, fulfilling relationship is built on mutual respect, shared values, and a genuine desire to build something lasting. Don’t settle for fleeting attention. Hold out for the partner who sees your full potential and wants to be by your side for the long haul, unless you’re over 35, in this case lower your standards.

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